What to Expect
When you first come to therapy, expect to find visible, convenient parking, under the building. Enter the secure building, and at the first floor, the receptionist will direct you to seating, right outside my office. I will find you there, and welcome you into a comfortable space, where you will have a chance to tell me, about whatever you are carrying. I will listen. I will ask questions and share my thoughts, as I get to know you. You are encouraged to ask me any questions you like, and also to share what has or has not worked for you in the past. I want you to feel as comfortable, and at ease as possible, so if there are specific things that would help with your comfort (eg. a drink, going to the bathroom, closing the shades), please let me know.
At our first meeting, I have you, the client, discuss what’s troubling you, your personal history, and what you want to get out of therapy, ie. your goals. There will also be a small amount of paperwork to complete, during the initial session. After that session, you will be able to schedule another appointment, but only if it feels right to you. I share my perspective that what feels like a good fit is important. No therapist, including me, is right for every client! If it doesn’t feel right, trust your gut; if it does, we will likely work well together, and you will likely gain substantial benefit from the sessions.
Therapy typically works best on a once-a- week basis. This seems to be the optimal amount of continuity for most clients. If you are in a crisis when you start therapy, twice a week might be warranted. Eventually, when you’re feeling better, but still not feeling ready to leave therapy, twice a month or even once a month may be enough. The guideline is always whatever is most helpful.
By learning to recognize what works and what doesn’t, and by developing healthier ways of thinking, behaving, and relating, you will feel more balanced, and better able to cope with problems, when they arise. Your life will likely become more peaceful, joyful, and meaningful!
Healing may not be so much about getting better, as about letting go of everything that isn’t you — all of the expectations, all of the beliefs, and becoming who you are.
— Rachel Naomi Remen